Love Yourself Happy!

I bet you’ve been suffering from a perpetual problem that is a product of our modern society. You hustle to reach your goals, stay in shape, and keep up with the Jonses. You strive so hard you push yourself beyond your capacity in some way, be it mental, emotional, physical, spiritual

You are only human, and you have limits. Contantly pushing your limits often leads to harsh criticism, self-judgment, and disappointment.

You lose track of your true self. πŸ˜”

Your identity becomes your job … your things … your roles. But your true self is more than just being a daughter, mom, sister, or employee. Your true self is the essence of you, the little 3-year-old girl who would have loved to sing and dance through a rainstormβ˜” without a care about what anyone else thought… Now she is tucked away, protected (and burdened) by your judgment, your ego, your obligations.

Your essence is inside of you, waiting out the storm, tucked away until she feels safe to come out and play. Do you want to see this part of yourself again? Would you like to laugh, πŸ˜‚ and sing, 🎀and feel carefree again, even for a moment? Can you imagine how different your dating and relationships could be if you felt like this?

The best way to make your true self feel safe to come out … is to show her love. 

Imagine how she feels right now. The person she wants to love her the most tells her all the time “You suck! I hate you. You’re such a disappointment. Work harder, and then maybe I’ll love you.” 🀬 Imagine how that lands in the soul. 😨 She is hurt, but she is not broken. πŸ’˜ She is hiding, and she’s taken your joy with her. The more you shame, blame, and abuse her, the less joy will be yours. I know it can be really difficult to hear, but I hope this truth hits home for you because this awareness is an important step in repairing your relationship with her! The good news is that you can turn and go on a journey to joy! πŸ˜€

Your action item this week is simply to change your self-talk. Imagine talking to that little part of you that wants so badly to be loved and accepted. Say “I love you” to yourself multiple times per day, especially at times when you feel down.

Say something like this:

“You’ve been through a lot. I’m sorry for being so critical, judgemental, and mean.”

“I’m proud of how far you’ve come. I am going to be more patient with you. I’m going to listen to you from now on. I love you. I love my body. I am so grateful for all the things my body allows me to do, like breath, walk, and sleep. I love my heart. I love that my heart is so wise it changes its rhythm all by itself. I love that my heart can love. I’m going to take care of myself, honor, and respect myself. I am not only going to say “I love you” to myself, but I’m going to show it.

There are more steps you can take in this process, but for right now, all I want you to focus on is repairing this relationship with your estranged self. Loving yourself lays the foundation for building the life you want and deserve. 


So, instead of judging, berating, or being angry 🀬 with yourself, what if you could be more understanding, patient and encouraging? πŸ˜‡ Support her (your true self) in her endeavors! Encourage her! “It might be a small step, but it’s a step in the right direction!” YES!!

Allow her to show up as part of you, the cute, fun, playful part. Let her blossom, little by little, right there in your current life…

  • At your current job
  • In your current home
  • At your current weight

You don’t have to change anything to love yourself and find happiness. 

You need to love yourself & find happiness BEFORE you can actually change. πŸ€―

Practice holding these two viewpoints at the same time:

1. On one hand, you love and accept yourself just the way you are.

2. AND at the same time, you want to continue to grow, evolve, maintain, and improve.

Hold these two thoughts, and continuously find the balance between them, again and again. First build the foundation of self-love and acceptance. Then you will start making quantum shifts with little effort.

Loving Kindness Meditation and feminine flow embodiment practice are also great ways to practice loving and accepting yourself and your reality just the way it is, in the present moment.

Relax. Exhale. Move. Release. Feel. Express. Love. 

Over the years, you’ve worked hard to create a life in the physical world (your career, your identity, being good and liked, etc.) but now your spirit inside is suffering because you’ve grown too harsh, critical, and judgmental. Your task now is to practice nurturing your physical self (including your real-world demands) while also nurturing, caring for, and loving your spiritual self, that little part of you that’s scaredsad, and holding back because she’s been threatened into submission.


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